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Gay & Fat

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As a larger gay man, this is Martijn's body image journey from self loathing to self-celebration. Big thank you to IGLTA: https://www.iglta.org Big thank you to Orbitz: http://www.orbitz.com Thank you to the Lloyd Hotel: http://www.lloydhotel.com/ Check out Gay & Night Magazine: https://www.facebook.com/GayNightMagazine Get Davey's DirtyFit Underwear: http://www.dirtyfitapparel.com Subscribe to Davey! ♥ http://bit.ly/1gpkiJ5 Follow Davey on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/OfficialDave ... Like Davey Wavey on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/DaveyWaveyOff ... Davey's Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TheDaveyWavey Davey's second YouTube channel: /DaveyWaveyRaw Get Davey's videos 7 days early on Vessel: http://www.vessel.com/daveywavey Davey's Website: http://www.daveywavey.tv Music - Epidemic Sound

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@2OOPoVstrechnoyمنذ 8 سنوات I sometimes wonder if the huge amount of gay suicides also has to do with the stigma against men who aren't seen as attractive enough. A lot of gay id="hidden1" class="buttons"> men take the competitive sex obsessed side of straight men, and mix it with the bitchy superficial side of some women. It's the perfect storm of an awful human being lol. I have a friend who struggles alot with how he has been treated by other gay men. He is afraid to even go to gay clubs and bars at this point because of how judgmental and catty people can be. It's really sad to see our own community divided instead of embracing eachother. Preference or not, you don't have to be a jerk to someone over something so silly. ....وسعت 123
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@phais3منذ 8 سنوات And this video is why, Davey, that ever since your early days in Toronto when you first started filming - I have watched, subscribed, consumed, and fell id="hidden2" class="buttons"> in love with your content.
You have always, always been in inspiration to me. You have taught me about myself. You have taught me how to teach others about myself - and our community. You have stayed true and faithful to your subscribers.
This speaks to me.
Years ago you promoted "You Are Beautiful, Pass It On". I have passed this message along to people I come across in my life.
Davey, just thank you. From the bottom of my heart. ....وسعت 6
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@ThousandSon81منذ 8 سنوات And people wonder why I rarely interact with other gay men. 66
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@edmcanمنذ 8 سنوات I can relate to this guy completely, although I am a great deal older. Thanks for sharing this Davey because it is becoming a greater issue than ever before. Man's inhumanity to man never ceases to amaze me. 14
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@FFXIfan93منذ 8 سنوات You cant ridicule people for having a personal preference, but to go out of your way to make fun of someone like that and degrade them as a human being id="hidden4" class="buttons"> is so much uglier than someone who is "fat" or "ugly". I dont care how much muscle or abs you have, if you are mean you are ugly! ....وسعت 112
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@thequestion4818منذ 8 سنوات I just realized this is part of that new video initiative you started, where you showcase LGBT people from around the world, but you've done videos id="hidden5" class="buttons"> like this before and it's some of your best content. just a person sharing a bit of themselves for four or five minutes. I love that you're expanding you horizons, and getting more community involvement, but this is the Davey Wavy I love. ....وسعت 11
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@chrisbigham5056منذ 8 سنوات You are not fat or ugly. You are very handsome with a nice beard. Forget those losers! 12
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@terrybaker8156منذ 8 سنوات This is why I don't identify as gay, just homosexual. Gay is the lifestyle, the look, the body shape, the culture etc. You have to fit in order to be gay. 23
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@siulzelaznog4248منذ 8 سنوات Thank you Davey for doing this. You just gave me hope! 9
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@CH-tj2ruمنذ 8 سنوات i saw the title and said "me" 31
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@bpetruska1526منذ 8 سنوات I was lucky. Met my husband when we were 18 and 19, been together 11 years. Never have to worry about looking like a model. Makes me feel bad for other id="hidden7" class="buttons"> single guys in their 30s who haven't found something real because they spent so much time trying to be something they're not. ....وسعت 5
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@alanrodriguez9192منذ 8 سنوات I'm so glad this video was made! Someone had to say this! Thank you! 8
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@jamiescott5461منذ 8 سنوات All you ignorant people who say , go to the gym, lose weight, etc. You don't know anyone else's struggles, who are you to judge? Btw just because some of us are slimmer, doesn't mean your healthy! 56
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@sunemp325منذ 8 سنوات so he dates skinny guys who like big guys? so he isnt attracted to people like him. thats still
like saying fat isnt good enough. 23
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@ricardoquintanavallejo341منذ 8 سنوات This project is beautiful. Thank you Davey. 3
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@BrycenGainesمنذ 8 سنوات Omg I needed this sooo badly. Thank you for covering this issue. I'm new to the gay scene and am I'm a big guy and I'm also trans but one would id="hidden9" class="buttons"> never think it by looking at me. I couldn't figure out why guys didn't talk to me at clubs, bars, etc, and its been slowly occurring to me that it may be because I'm overweight. I became very sad at realizing this fact and started to get insecure. Seeing this reasured me that I can love and accept myself and that I can find love. I guess I haven't been looking in the right places. ....وسعت 6
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@yujin7968منذ 8 سنوات I don't care if he's fat or not. He's sooooo cute! 21
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@OJ-xc2soمنذ 8 سنوات Martijn is the cutest most and with the warmest heart you can ever meet, I wish you a long happy healthy life. 2
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@jeffreybaits7185منذ 8 سنوات yup im fat and gay and i love it i dont give a shit what other people think 66
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@victorsoldoمنذ 8 سنوات God! I missed videos that have actual content in this chanel. It feels so good to watch actual good videos. 1
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@reddragon042391منذ 8 سنوات I love my chubby, short, hairy little teddy bear more than anyone in the world! 4
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@golden-63منذ 8 سنوات I can't tell you how many times I've been passed up because I'm thin. It works both ways. 18
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@VAChub4Muscleمنذ 7 سنوات Thank you for doing this video Davey - I too as an overweight gay man have experienced people on various dating or fetish sites send me messages just to id="hidden10" class="buttons"> ask me why I'm there and who I think would ever want to be with me. All I did was look at their profile - not even message or liked their profile - just looked at it - and from what they had already knew they weren't interested - so i moved on. Don't know why they couldn't have done the same without reaching out just to insult me.
Anyhow - thank you for doing a video on the topic of us bigger gay men. ....وسعت 2
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@francismastro4666منذ 8 سنوات GREAT VIDEO DAVEY!!!!!! The irony is that gay ppl who are still discriminated against & r "outcasts" should be less shallow because of what id="hidden11" class="buttons"> we have to go through- instead we are creating a culture that has the same stereotypes of straight ppl towards women- we treat each other like objects!! it sucks!!! ....وسعت 15
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@howudoin135منذ 8 سنوات You are gorgeous, and never let anyone tel you different! <3 13
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@andweledwightilles6903منذ 8 سنوات Great video! Thanks for the honesty. I can relate 2
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@ilyalisser8333منذ 8 سنوات Thank you for this video, I recognize so much. Although I am not quite as far as you Martijn in regard to my self-esteem, it helps to hear experiences id="hidden12" class="buttons"> of other gay men who struggle with their body image. Although I am struggling with my weight, I have the feeling that the insecurity has a higher impact on my health and life in general than me being overweight. Hopefully it will change some day :). ....وسعت
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@kalobthegمنذ 8 سنوات I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum (really thin); however, I struggle with body image too. This video was great to watch to gain a little more self-confidence 5
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@gaygamerboiمنذ 8 سنوات I injured my ankle two years ago and gained weight from inactivity. I basically shut down that aspect of my life out of shame and embarrassment. Now when id="hidden14" class="buttons"> I get hit on, my mind does not even register it. Ankle is now healed and am on the path to weightloss. Hopefully self-acceptance will come with it. Kudos to this guy! ....وسعت
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@ainetmonroeمنذ 8 سنوات gonna keep it short and sweet. thank you for sharing your story. it's good to know how others have dealt with this. 1
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@JustinKenwardمنذ 8 سنوات I have to deal with my fatness a lot. Even with my dad who lives out of state. When I get to see him word one, even before hello is about my fat.
It's very hard being gay and fat. 4
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@josephbenn7468منذ 8 سنوات Awesome video thanks for sharing this story with us. !!! :) 2
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@riverboysfمنذ 8 سنوات One of the reasons I love your work so much, Davey. xo
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@tyakabudz9624منذ 8 سنوات I'm glad I'm not the only one with these ideas. 1
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@Bestofthebestforeverمنذ 8 سنوات The world needs more people like you and who think like you - and have your courage. Great. 2
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@CurumoTheGreatمنذ 8 سنوات Dear Martijn, I have no words to explain how identified I feel with your words. You're basically describing me. My friends know me as a strong, opinionated id="hidden16" class="buttons"> (in the good sense) and self-confident person. But the reality is that, more often than not, I feel VERY insecure about the way I look. I've actually learned not to comment on people's appearance because I don't wanna be receiving those comments. I mean, even saying something like "have you lost weight", "are you on a diet" because I really want my friends to see me for who I am, not the way I look. I'm 40 now, almost 41 and being overweight and "mature" is kind of a bad mix. I'm just lucky that I'm married to someone who loves me for who I am, but I always wonder if I were single, would people still find me attractive? I know it's sounds silly, that you shouldn't base your self confidence on what others think of you, but it feels kinda nice when someone flatters you.
BTW, I'd love to be your friend! I bet you're an amazing person to have long conversations with! ....وسعت 3
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@aarxnwمنذ 8 سنوات People on dating websites judge people on their looks because you could write anything on your profile to make you sound better and the way you express id="hidden17" class="buttons"> yourself through text on the chat is different to how you express yourself in person, i'm super skinny and I didn't mean to fall in love with a chubbier guy, but I did and he is self conscious about his body and he shouldn't be, because I love him for him and not for his body! :) ....وسعت 2
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@Eltoca21منذ 8 سنوات Almost all of the time I am drawn to bigger guys. 5
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@keithwebster9076منذ 8 سنوات Great little vid. I still struggle and I live in fear. But maybe there is hope. Davey you asked me to watch more, so I did. And boy, am I glad I did.
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@bo3tbمنذ 8 سنوات i am a chubby chaser .. and i fuckin love it.. never been attracted to skinny guys. 4
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@rodney9114منذ 8 سنوات What the hell go's through ones mind to make them want to go out of their way to insult someone? I understand if you're not attracted to certain id="hidden18" class="buttons"> body types, but to actually send someone a message just to insult someone means that person must have something terribly wrong with them. ....وسعت 10
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@87teenagedreamمنذ 8 سنوات your beard game is on point stay beautiful hunny!!!! 2
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@JohnD88منذ 8 سنوات Playing for gay rugby teams and touring the world with them - I came to realise you are always somebodies type! You go to parties with people of every id="hidden19" class="buttons"> build, and it's not who you'd initially expect getting hit on.
I found plenty of people in the states like bigger guys. ....وسعت 2
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@coryrogers7848منذ 4 سنوات Trying to stay positive is difficult. The reality for most is that it’s a lonely world. 1
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@niznet111منذ 8 سنوات "Chasers" Never heard that one before. Sounds good!
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@DJWhovianمنذ 8 سنوات There was a guy on grindr who every time I started new profile would message and tell me I was do ugly and looked like I had cerebral pulsy. I feel that id="hidden20" class="buttons"> the guys I like which are usually the fit muscular ones won't like me because I'm not as good looking as them. ....وسعت 3
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@TheHighMageمنذ 8 سنوات I was once on grindr. I know I know don't judge. So a guy messaged me asking if my weight was really 220, I said yes, thinking he was going to say id="hidden21" class="buttons"> I looked slimmer or something. He proceeded to say I was disgusting and unhealthy and shouldn't be on there. I uninstalled it and didn't consider dating anyone for years.
Then I met someone through a friend at a get together, we hit it off. He's skinny, tiny even but he finds me attractive. He's not a chaser, he just doesn't mind body type.
Even if one feels worthless, there's always someone who will disagree. Hopefully you will meet them. ....وسعت 1
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@eternally17منذ 8 سنوات It saddens me so much to hear and see how intentionally hurtful and insensitive some people can be. As members of the LGBT+ community we should be supportive id="hidden22" class="buttons"> of one another. Kindness costs nothing but means everything. ❤️❤️ ....وسعت 3
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@Geek_Chorusمنذ 7 سنوات I've been on those bear sites looking for chasers, it's just bears, big hairy fat bears. The "chaser" is just a gay urban myth I'm convinced. Like the Yeti. Or maybe I just look like a Yeti? 1
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@42GG0Tمنذ 8 سنوات These honest videos are so much better than your norm.
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@dueydotnetمنذ 8 سنوات We need more messages like this. About bears and big men on mainstream gay media. Well, also mainstream media as well. To destroy the stereotype that to id="hidden24" class="buttons"> be gay and accepted you have to be thin or muscular. Bring on the big boys! ....وسعت 1
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@tuomasat6908منذ 8 سنوات What a great video! And a good looking guy!
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@GaramondGourmondمنذ 8 سنوات I'm fat, gay AND ugly. But thankfully I don't make it an issue because I'm particularly interesting in relationships. And as time goes by I id="hidden25" class="buttons"> become less and less interested in sex itself, as my hormones change. So, at this point, I'm pretty much in a relationship with myself and that's just dandy. It saves a lot of grief and a lot of complication, neither of which are fun. ....وسعت 2
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@HyperSpeziFischمنذ 8 سنوات Ok, is the standart for gays THAT different? As a straight girl, I think he looks really cute. I'm not particularly into any body type, and I get that id="hidden26" class="buttons"> dating sites - gay or straight - are horribly superficial (which is why I never wanted to try one)- so there it would be a hard platform for anyone who isn't a model, but in everyday, real life. He has a very nice face and kind eyes and a super nice body language. I wonder whether he himself was only witing to guys traditionally deemed hot. ....وسعت 2
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@hdkk33منذ 8 سنوات Jaaaa! Martijn, wat een fijne boodschap :) 1
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@oehrkمنذ 8 سنوات Thank u for lighting out that fatshameing is an issue in the gay Community. I made the same experiences like he did.
There is no tolerance inside the Community also we always want tolerance for the Community. 1
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@terryxDمنذ 8 سنوات still dreaming of the day theres a video on your channel with a bunch of shirtless bears :)
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@SeanDDOLANITOUTمنذ 8 سنوات I wish I could hit the LIKE button twice. 1
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@mikeax9873منذ 7 سنوات I'm overweight. Does not define me. I try my best to be active. Loving yourself will get your further in life than hating yourself. I been with the id="hidden28" class="buttons"> same person since I was 22 years old I'm 28 now. When I hated myself and had low self esteem i had no friends and no one to date. Accept yourself 100% and life will be much better. Been married for 2 years to Dr. Steiner and couldn't be happier :) <3 ....وسعت
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@jpage78منذ 8 سنوات I think attraction is far more based in self esteem than anything. Once I stopped fighting that I'm chubby and just accepted myself I started getting id="hidden29" class="buttons"> hit on by guys of all different shapes and sizes. The more comfortable you are with yourself the less you notice the cruelty of others and the less their opinion of you matters. ....وسعت
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@ethant2051منذ 8 سنوات If you're fat. You shoul go to the gym and burn I off. slim down and become healthy. 14
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@iamrebbie6226منذ 8 سنوات there are apps that caters to bears, chubby, superchubby, cub and the likes like Growlr, Chasabl, Jack'd so if you can stay out of Grindr. There are id="hidden30" class="buttons"> a lot of bars for bears and chubs too. there is even a Bear conventions and private parties you can attend to meet people alike. ....وسعت
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@sanguine7847منذ 2 سنوات Being overweight all my life, I've been beaten and picked on. The first time someone hit on me it blew my mind, and I didn't even know how to act. id="hidden31" class="buttons"> It did so much for my self esteem, to get positive attention like that. ....وسعت
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@scottsmith3746منذ 8 سنوات as soon as i gained weight i became undesirable 16
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@steves9173منذ 8 سنوات I've been bullied my entire adolescent life and still get it at 38. Being told day after day I'm ugly and made fun of. Beat up Called names and id="hidden32" class="buttons"> laughed at. I'm so happy I found this wonderful community. I love going to a gay bar with a sexy guy who's with me and watching all the gym rats and twinks hit on him knowing they don't stand a chance in hell haha. And you don't know how good it feels when he wraps his arm around me and lays a big kiss on me. The looks from all the other guys is priceless. If guys only knew how hot our chasers are. I have friends who get hundreds of messages everyday on Grindr and Growlr. Some of the top viewed or messaged on grindr are chasers in to different types of chubs or bears. So sorry boys but they don't like you. ....وسعت 1
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@thomasoakly4256منذ 8 سنوات I can so relate. People allow themselves to be real asses towards chubby and fat people, especially in the gay community and thats not okay. Personaly id="hidden33" class="buttons"> I am lucky enough to be able to defend myself but comments like the ones i get sometimes can make someone wanna kill themselves.
And he seems like a really cool guy! ....وسعت 1
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@hworthمنذ 8 سنوات I really hate the false idea that being attracted to fat men is a fetish. Is being attracted to muscular men a fetish? How about blonde men? Or twinks? id="hidden34" class="buttons"> Which physical characteristics you find attractive are preferences, some preferences are more popular than others, but that does not make the unpopular preferences fetishes. I want a partner who finds me attractive - physically, emotionally, and intellectually. I love my body and want a partner who loves it too. Physical attractiveness is not in competition with personality attractiveness, I want both. Luckily, my husband and I have been in a mutual attraction society of two for almost 10 years now, but I think a lot of fat guys sell themselves short by settling for less than that. ....وسعت 5
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@abelardorodriguez630منذ 8 سنوات Perfect video. I have fortunately had one of the most beautiful men as a boyfriend but he destroyed himself. I have discovered that most beautiful men have insecurities too. Now I'm spoiled and waiting for the next. 1
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@xXdwsizevilXxمنذ 8 سنوات I have always felt like this, guys who are fit and in shape/pretty are given preference in this community and it kind of sucks. 1
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@mariusvancمنذ 8 سنوات It's not discrimination or shaming if someone doesn't find you attractive and turns down your advances.
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@ECHO_PURGESمنذ 8 سنوات I'm a big guy myself 5'11 and 355 the way I see it I'm a big ass teddy bear that keeps you safe and warm at night lol. Tbh there's nothing id="hidden36" class="buttons"> wrong with him at all he just doesn't have a good selection of men that prefer bigger guys plain and simple. But that's the beauty of the gay community there's a place for everyone big or small.
I will say that there is a problem where people feel the need to degrade others for what they like or look like whether it's skinny, chubs, bears, muscle bears etc. it's called personal preference for a reason there should be no shaming in that it is bad enough we get shit for being gay from others that just don't accept us but then we hate on each other Dafuq? Think about it, isn'it sad that there are 2 different prides? There's Gay pride and Bear pride? We can't even get along in the same boat -_- ....وسعت 2
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@jmaprinsمنذ 8 سنوات Goed gedaan jongen!! eindelijk iemand die zijn mond open trekt!!
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@brandonburt4244منذ 8 سنوات I definitely love the message, I'm also gay and fat. but I still don't like and/or think it's ok to be fat. I mean for myself, I look in id="hidden37" class="buttons"> the mirror and I don't like what I see, and I'm changing it.. I honestly don't care is some one if large or thin, what matters to me is their personality, it's cliche but it's true. ....وسعت
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@kerrymckee7646منذ 5 سنوات When I was younger I was "too skinny", people didn't think I ate. Then at 11 years old I got sick with Crohn's, Rheumatoid Arthritis, id="hidden38" class="buttons"> and HSP. I started gaining weight. I'm now over 300 pounds. It sucks because I've struggled to lose the weight and it seems when I try to change my diet and try to become more active, my body becomes more tired than it already is and my Crohn's flares up, causing me to gain weight even faster. Its only when I hardly eat because I feel too sick to that i lose weight. But guys don't stop to think why I'm overweight, they just know I'm overweight and aren't interested in an overweight guy, but I can't really blame them. ....وسعت
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@leegay4evaمنذ 8 سنوات I get this all the time , people think the can tell you your fat, ugly just because they are sim or 'hot' and it does get me down sometimes
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@ChristoperJamesمنذ 8 سنوات Being a chaser, i sure was hoping we'd have a shirtless guy at the end like so many of your other videos ;) Still great video though (: 5

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